Nurturing and supporting Dad was a fantastic team effort – each of us contributing in our own unique way —- To Dad, each of his children where the apple of his eye – we where each just a different variety of apple and as such we all added our unique and independent flavour into his life as he did ours.
We all supported Dad emotionally and we where all there when Dad could not be there for himself
My journey with dad began 66 years ago when I wouldn’t wait for him to come home to make my entrance into the world – my impatience became, over the years, a great source of spirited banter between us, shared by both of us
Dad was a courageous, fiercely independent, wise man who had a heart of gold – a man born into an era of much turmoil and unrest – an emotional man who knew at some level that he had a significant role in leadership in this life time.
Dad and I travelled along many rocky roads, sometimes independently, sometimes together. We dug in the ditches and in the last 5 years of Dad’s life we climbed our mountain, our connection became something that gave us both a great sense of joy as we accepted our individual roles on our pathway of forgiveness.
Dad loved it when I gave him the responsibility of being my grammar/spelling checker for my writings – he really starred in this role and on many occasions, continued to add even more wisdom, which added another dimension to my ability to throw my thoughts to the wind and allow them to manifest wherever they where needed
With Dad’s inspiration I was able to create many Mind Empowerment Movies using visual, audible aids and brainwave technology to allow Dad to let his mind go from a visual aspect, to where it needed to go, the musical enhancement of his favourite melodies helped him to relax and modern science and ancient wisdom took care of the rest
When dad first began to become totally engaged – it sometimes took a couple of hours to go through a movie – for Dad to explain what the written affirmations meant to him and of course, Dad being Dad he adding more insight to them
Dads’ sense of humour, his sharp wit and his wisdom on the power of the mind, more particularly the unconscious mind, plus his positive beliefs around the power of the spoken word never ceased to amaze me – we laughed , we cried – such a beautiful time for both of us
An incident that comes to mind that was a total acknowledgement of our communication was about the youth of today – “they will be OK” – they will not be bullied and they know at some level, that they are just rebelling… Dad continued, but while we are talking about that, I have a point I want to make. They get to choose whether they take drugs or they don’t, we oldies, who have never resorted to these forms of escape do not get any choice – he continued “WHY IS THAT SO” – I cracked up – Where did that come from.
As a continuation on this theme, Dad said in another conversation, Life is full of confusion and mixed messages and far to many rules – GO FIGURE
This 96 year old mind never ceased to amaze me.
Only 2 weeks ago – it was movie time, but it was different now, Dad knew in his heart that he had let go of his old beliefs that no longer served him, so together, we felt and acknowledged our sense of peace. The circle was now complete – forgiveness and freedom was achieved
A couple of days later I walked into Dad’s room and he was seated , on his bed in front of his hall of honour – which was formally known as the rogues gallery – his Grand Children’s photos – he didn’t acknowledge me , but with all the strength he could muster, he said “please make sure they all know how much I love them” The deal was sealed – a promise was made
And finally, Dads final message to tomorrow leaders – you know who you are
Let go of the Martyr – didn’t work for me and it will never work for you
Believe in yourself and follow your dreams
Be there for others, but allow them to find their own truth
To My Gentle Giant
From Peter, Dad he wants you to know just how much your strong bond meant to him and we both thank you for being our Father, for your love, your support, for your wisdom and for your inspiration.
I thank you for the good times and I thank you for giving me the strength and courage to understand the not so good times – to find the reason for the journey of life
Thankyou for being my teacher and my student
Be at peace xxxx